by Janet L. Jacobsen
When is a dating service not a dating service? When is matchmaking
not matchmaking? Apparently when the company introduces you to people
without actually matching you and when it downplays the idea
of a date.
That seems to be the pattern with several new introduction
companies in the Valley. There are some that set you up for lunch or dinner.
And what started elsewhere as Speed Dating has taken on several
variations locally over the past few months.
As with all introduction services, you need to weigh the cost against
the con-venience - and the likelihood of actually meeting someone interesting.
A membership fee of several hundred dollars may get you only a half dozen
dates with people whose primary matching characteristic is being available
for a meal or an event at the same time you are.
If you know you absolutely wont take the initiative on your own,
and youve got the bucks, it may well be worth the price. But you
could probably get to know as many people by giving a couple of fun parties
at home (hire a caterer!), or taking several new classes, or going on
a really fun trip for the same - or a lot less - money.
Speaking of travel, our July/August issue will feature our up-dated national
list of singles publications around the country, so when youre on
the road - or making a move - you can find fun singles things to
do. If you cant wait til July, youll find last years
list on the Single Scene web site.
Singles events come and go. We had a notice from the Multi-Parish Singles
that there are no longer Friday night dances at the Elks Club (which the
group attended) and that their regular social at Rockin Rodeo would
be looking for a new place, because the bar had closed. But now I understand
that Rockin Rodeo is remodelling and will reopen (with a differ-ent
name) in May with a new theme which will be half country.
(Do I want to know which half?) Meanwhile Im hearing rumors that
someone is planning to start a new singles dance.
Theres a new general interest magazine out, called AZ Living, and
their Spring issue featured an article on The Dating Game: How todays
midlife singles are finding each other. The article quoted me on
several points, and recommended Single Scene and our website as resources
for singles. They also liked the website singlesonthego.com/phoenix [note:
not all the groups listed are strictly singles], and gave a good mention
to the Calculated Couples weekly events.
If you (or a friend) are struggling with adjusting to single life, you
can now take Harlans wonderful divorce recovery class right at home
- free! Thousands of singles went through these classes, and now Harlan
has condensed them into a five day free e-mail course called Moving
On, covering how you can end the divorce miseries. Then follow that
with his 8-day course Get Going, the condensed version of
his very very popular Dating Again class, also free (!) by e-mail.
Send a BLANK email from the email address where you want the course sent,
to get the divorce recovery readings. For the dating again class, send
a blank email to firstname.lastname@example.org. Thats all
it takes! Isnt this electronic stuff amazing?!
Summer is upon us. If you decide to escape the heat, take care when you
head to the mountains. Things have been very very dry. Well hope
for no forest fires, and an early monsoon.
Years ago the Valley pretty much emptied over the summer, but with so
many fun things to do in town, including lots of great singles events,
you can keep busy and meet new people all summer long. Enjoy