by Janet L. Jacobsen
Got one of those dating service pitches in the mail the other day. It
in-cludes the line Take control of your romantic destiny.
Paying large amounts of money to someone to maybe introduce you to others
who have paid large amounts of money doesnt exactly meet my definition
of taking control - more like giving up control.
Of course, the multi-item questionnaire about the person you are seeking
makes it seem like they are going to find you people who match
what you want. But look closely - marital status and edu-cation level
are the only questions they ask about you that match questions about what
you want. Asking both people what they want doesnt make it very
easy to match who they are, which is what really counts in a successful
relationship, after all.
Actually, a gal I know who once worked for a large national dating service
said that the most important item on the questionnaire is your income
level. If you dont reach a certain level, they dont want you
as a customer because you arent likely to pay the high price of
the service. So the point of the questionnaire, she said, was to qualifycustomers
not on their match-ability, but on the money they had to spend for the
So heres a better approach to take control of your romantic
destiny. Take the thousand dollars or so a dating service would
cost you, and get out and meet people! Attend singles events! Make friends!
Introduce friends; encourage them to introduce you. Have fun! Go new places,
do new things. Be yourself. Most important - get out of the house!
Heres a plan: National Singles Week is September 15 to 21, so hold
a party or arrange an outing with all your single friends that week.
The Singles Showcase is the big singles event of the year. After many
years being held in September, the event has been (wisely, Id say)
moved to Saturday, October 19. (Much cooler for mingling in the nice outside
courtyard.) Dozens of singles organizations and related businesses have
information booths. Hundreds of singles attend, and theres lots
of opportunity to mingle.
Ill be one of the featured speakers, talking about Peace Talks
in the War between the Sexes. Im really looking forward to
it! All this for just $5 admission. Dont miss it. Stop by our booth
and say Hi!
Single Scene has had a booth every year since the Showcase started, so
obviously we think its an important event. We certainly urge all
singles groups and singles-related businesses to participate. This is
THE most efficient way for you to reach your potential members/customers.
Our congratulations to Max McQueen and all the members of Central Singles
for their 21 years of incredible service to our local singles community,
through the Singles Showcase and other events they offer.
Halloween is coming up too. Halloween is adults night out - second only
to New Years Eve, so enjoy! Because it falls on a Thursday night
this year, you can probably find Halloween events both before and after
the day, so pick a costume that will hold up well. And if your goal is
to meet people to date, do not choose a costume that hides what sex you
Remember: Celebrate National Singles Week - take yourself to lunch!