Singles Scene Newsletter 5/22/00 issue 23 sing-@primenet.com THANKS for responding to our recent question: would you prefer to receive this newsletter weekly, twice monthly, or monthly? Responses were weekly: 67% twice-monthly: 29% monthly: 4%. So we'll stay weekly for now, with perhaps the occasional lapse into every two weeks. Thanks for voting! In this issue: * 27 quick questions test your adjustment to single life! * Singles Site of the Week * All Singles Dance Schedule * Arizona Date Ideas * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Have you adjusted completely to your new life after divorce? Answer Yes or No: 1. Do you still feel like somewhat of a failure as a result of your divorce? 2. Do you still lack the self-confidence of being a worthwhile, desirable person? 3. Do you feel your single and/or social life is minimal? 4. Are you having trouble developing the kind of relationships you want? 5. Do you feel your sexual needs are not being met? 6. If your sex needs are being met, are feelings of guilt tied up with them? 7. Do you still feel uncomfortable about dating? 8. Do you feel (if you're a man) that nearly all the single women are trying to marry again? Or (if you're a woman) that all men want is to get you in bed? 9. Do you find it difficult to do your best on your job since your divorce? 10. Do you have periods of daydreaming about your situation, staring at the walls for periods of time? 11. Do you find yourself still eating or drinking more than you did before your divorce? 12. Do you still have trouble handling the duties of living that your spouse used to do? 13. Do you still talk about your divorce several times a week? 14. Does any contact with, or news about, your "Ex" still upset you? 15. Do you still feel you are in financial turmoil because of your divorce? 16. Are you still uptight about getting acquainted with attractive strangers of the opposite sex? 17. Are you either; a) searching constantly, hoping to get married again? Or b) very strongly opposed to getting married again? 18. Do you still anguish and relive mentally some of your past hurts? 19. Do you still resent your "Ex" for being somewhat responsible for putting you in your present position? 20. Do you still feel that being Single is too much of a hassle, and that being married was much more comfortable? 21. Do you still feel desperately lonely at times, or have periods when you dread being all alone? 22. Do you still feel like a "fish out of water" at activities strictly for singles? 23. Do you still feel ill-at-ease going to any social functions alone? 24. Do you still have trouble in trusting the opposite sex? 25. Do you feel at loose ends as to what happens to your life now? 26. Do you still feel emotionally drained, and that you are not ready yet for another relationship? 27. Do you think of single life as temporary? If you have more than 10 "Yes" answers -- you still have quite a bit of adjusting to do. Keep reading Single Scene. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Singles Site of the Week - Ok, so now and then dating can be a bummer. We prefer to look on the bright side of all things related to being single, but if you've really HAD IT with the process, you might enjoy a look at www.Dipuc.com. (That's c-u-p-i-d backwards, which gives you some idea about the site.) Dating jokes, dates from hell, etc. (Some a bit raunchy, so skip it, if that's not your thing.) * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * ALL SINGLES DANCE SHEDULE: MAY Fri. 26 Scottsdale Radisson, 7171 N. Scottsdale Rd. Call 480-949-8076 (press 1) for more info or see *********************** DATE IDEAS Tues., May 23: Take an evening bike ride (rent bikes if necessary). Bike to an interesting diner, have dinner, bike back. Wed., May 24: Go miniature golfing. Thurs., May 25: Every Thurs., standup comedy night, 8 p.m., Star Theatre, 7111 E. McDowell, Scottsdale. $4, reservations required. 480-423-0120. Friday, May 26: Evening poetry reading, Changing Hands Bookstore, McClintock & Guadalupe (sw corner), Tempe. Sat., May 27: Hogs in Heat, all-you-can-eat barbecue & dance, Rock Springs Cafe, Black Canyon City (exit 242, I-17 n. of Phx.). 4 pm-? 623-374-5794. Sun., May 28: Every Sunday, free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwest archeology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. Mon. May 29: Too hot to be outside, so people watching improves in the malls. Have dinner in the food court and watch the world go by. Scottsdale Fashion Square and Arizona Mills are good bets. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * AND NOW--a commercial announcement -- Hundreds of fun things to do in and around the Valley of the Sun -- ALL FOR $6.50 per person OR LESS. Includes dozens of things to do FREE! Great ideas for dating, or for fun with friends and family. 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